How have you grown through your suffering?

Episode 28

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Suffering leads to transformation. Pain is necessary despite what society tells you that being uncomfortable and feeling vulnerable aren’t good and you should push those feelings away, move on and feel positive. What we attach to the pain is important and the key is how you understand and deal with it.

Throughout her life Lael has looked at herself, what vulnerability means and how emotional trauma has surfaced. She suffered a traumatic event when her third child was born and hadn’t dealt with it at the time. Two and half years later she was hit with PTSD. Anxiety attacks stopped her from working and she was overcome by so much emotion and pain. This was a life changing moment that required her to truly feel and understand what this event meant. All this taught her to always look at who she was and who she wanted to be. It’s so important to take care of your needs first and learn to love yourself, which sadly we’re just not taught.

We talk about aware parenting (her area of expertise), what it means to be present and to catch your feelings and not project them onto your kids. Lael discusses what she fears the most and how she is able to step into the bigness of life and has the courage to be different. The importance of making a difference in the world, changing people’s lives for the better and the truth of who we are.

She is an inspiring person who has achieved so much and has the grace to acknowledge it. I truly hope you enjoy the conversation as much as we did.

Hosted by
Dan Whiteman

I’m a 50-year-old man who’s seen a lot of life. I’m a son, brother, father, friend, pleaser/giver and genuinely nice guy. I’ve changed jobs many times in the search of finding meaning and living a fulfilled life. I’ve moved to a new country; I’ve been married and divorced and experienced trauma. I’m very open, honest and seek out deep and meaningful conversations but this wasn’t always the case. I’ve made mistakes and will continue to do so but that’s how I’ve learn't to evolve and grow.

I strive to push myself and be the best version of me. I have struggled with a lack of self-belief and confidence but I’m learning to deal with that. After 50 years I’ve learn't to love myself by observing how I am in the world, the way I think and react. This has profoundly changed my life. I’m grateful every day for what I have. My life is full of rich experiences and people that have helped guide and shape the person I’ve become. I’ve learn't to know who I am and know what I want.

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Episode 28